A parenting/discipline reference list

[terriblelynne]

This is partially for my personal reference and also available just as an FYI.

http://www.nospank.net/purpose.htm

http://www.nospank.net/main.htm

http://www.neverhitachild.org/
(look at their excellent links/resources page)

http://www.vegsource.com/talk/parenting/no_spanking.htm

http://www.crisisconnectioninc.org/domesticviolence/nospanking.htm

http://www.extension.umn.edu/info-u/families/BE714.html

http://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/node/46

http://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/what_tcs_is_and_what_it_is_not

http://www.vachss.com/help_text/corporal_punishment.html

http://www.nospank.net/faber.htm

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0943990742/104-2319290-3746308?v=glance&n=283155&v=glance

http://fabermazlish.com/newslett.htm

Comments

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

*nod* I know not every link I posted has information or tools that will work in every single instance...that's why I posted so many of them.

What I've done (and I've worked with strong boy children with anger management issues who were likely to hit or strike adults) is remove myself from the situation for a few minutes, if possible...the issue of physical safety/toning down the violent response, to me supercedes the need to get the child to "obey" at that moment. The child is then not getting positive or negative attention, but none at all...you refuse to participate in the interaction.

Yes, I know there are circumstances where that wouldn't work either. My singular point here is, "there are options, and lots of them."

[chungjik.livejournal.com]

I know not every link I posted has information or tools that will work in every single instance...that's why I posted so many of them.

Exactly. Not violent parenting taking creativity. Each situation may call for a slightly different response. It takes time too...

The other piece that I have found is this: When parents try to switch parenting technques, it takes time to do so successfully. The child may act out in the meanwhile. The child may test the parents limits. The biggest thing is that parents MUST stay CONSISTENT. You can't give up the second the child tests your limits and say "See- I told you these techniques won't work!"

[beckyms.livejournal.com]

I didn't mean to pick on you about it. For the majority of children, the suggestions will probably "work".

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

It's totally okay. I know you've had some related issues and that some of the suggestions weren't things that would work for you.

I did go on to post another link for a resource to go to when lots of suggestions don't work in a separate entry.

There's nothing easy about it and I don't mean it to sound that way. It's just that it can be done, with help and support.