A parenting/discipline reference list

[terriblelynne]

This is partially for my personal reference and also available just as an FYI.

http://www.nospank.net/purpose.htm

http://www.nospank.net/main.htm

http://www.neverhitachild.org/
(look at their excellent links/resources page)

http://www.vegsource.com/talk/parenting/no_spanking.htm

http://www.crisisconnectioninc.org/domesticviolence/nospanking.htm

http://www.extension.umn.edu/info-u/families/BE714.html

http://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/node/46

http://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/what_tcs_is_and_what_it_is_not

http://www.vachss.com/help_text/corporal_punishment.html

http://www.nospank.net/faber.htm

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0943990742/104-2319290-3746308?v=glance&n=283155&v=glance

http://fabermazlish.com/newslett.htm

Comments

[nstormrider.livejournal.com]

I guess it mostly boils down to, I don't agree with the logic of 'spanking says it is OK to hit'. It's faulty logic. If parents are supposed to be an example of what is 'right and good' and therefore can't punish a child by spanking, what does it say of any sort of punishment? If you are punished by being put in a timeout, does that mean it's OK to force someone away from everyone? Does it lead to kidnapping?

If you are punished by a grounding or taking away a favored toy, does that mean it's OK to steal from your enemies or deprive them of their contact?

If there is no punishment, doesn't it mean it's OK to do anything? I think the core argument isn't about the type of punishment, it's about the rationale. Punishment must be punishment, not lashing out, and it must be just.