everybody else's girl ?

I just had the strangest thing pop into my head. I wonder how much I really act on this. It's definitely conditional, because I am by no means a "good girl" or "people pleaser" across the board. But my mind just said at me:
"People won't love me if I don't do what they want." I feel like other people's love is conditional, I guess, and that I have to bend over backwards to meet those conditions, and that if I don't then I'm not worthy of said love because I didn't work or try hard enough. I do so often think it's all me...I think in my head, I have this image...the story of Janet and Tamlin...Janet has to hold on to Tamlin until he turns human and therefore is capable of staying with her and loving her...he turns into a snake, a bear, a bar of hot iron, etc. I feel like if I don't hold on to my "Tamlin" no matter how painful it is for me, then I don't have enough love in me, I didn't try hard enough, I'm not worthy, I don't deserve anything better. And I'm not always attracted to people who go through so many changes (pun intended) but when I am, that is definitely how I react to letting go of the relationship for my own good. Wow.